comparative hardship bias (n.)
/kəmˈpærətɪv ˈhɑːrdʃɪp ˈbaɪəs/ (kum-PAIR-uh-tiv HARD-ship BY-uss)
: the tendency to perceive one’s own effort, burden, or suffering as greater than most other people’s, because one’s own costs are vivid while others’ are abstract, inferred, and opaque
often a product of salience and access asymmetry (your costs are directly felt; others’ are inferred), and a specific expression of the availability heuristic, in which the mind judges magnitude by what comes most easily to mind